Saturday, September 18, 2010

Asylum




Somewhere in a city
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Dear Ernie,
You are our best hope. Rumour has it that you have been successful in applying for asylum in a lovely country area by the sea, where a cow could be happy to graze.

We have been living with a heifer in a busy part of a big city and its really not working out.. First thing she did was put us in the washing machine without even checking if either of us had a voice! When we came out – dizzy and wet she stuck us in a dark cupboard to dry out (we hadn’t touched a drop – honest)

When we were let back out of the warm clothes shed, it should have been no surprise to learn that one of us (too embarrassing to say who) had developed a case of OCMD – obsessive, compulsive mooing disorder. Well you can imagine how that has gone down in a posh part of town.

We feel that we have no choice but to run and throw ourselves on the mercy of the truly compassionate people who took you in. They must be wonderful if you have been able to set up home with them as you didn’t have the best reputation in the pound.

We have taken the precaution of bringing a packet of Jersey Cream biscuits as a goodwill gesture and a treat for you and your friend Finch. C’mon we were good friends in the old days, help us out, please. We’d love to moo-ve in
Yours truly,
Hank and Marilynn Mary Moo

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Birr July 2010


So here we are, Me and the children, Jacq and her family. Its a Saturday night and I am back in Birr for the first time since Mum and Dad and the removal van pulled out nearly 8 years ago. It feels a little like being in a dream sequence. Some elements of the town have changed but not enough to make it feel different enough. It is odd to stand at the end of the drive of a house that was my family home for 30 years and not be going up to the familiar door and be able to walk right in and say "Hi" to Mum and Dad. (To be fair to the current incumbent, we were invited to look around but I just couldn't face it.)


To stand outside the church I was married in, the house I lived in, the school I was a pupil in between the ages of 6-12 and the pub I occasionally drank in during my late teenage years is odd and vaguely disturbing. I would not wish to turn the clock back to certain aspects of my adult life spent in Birr as a sole parent to my 2 wonderful kids when they were oh so young during weekends snatched from Dublin, but I benefitted so much from the backup of my loving parents. It is so odd being here without Mum and Dad. The last time I was here I was a proud daughter of a Rector. This time I am a priest but still the very very proud daughter of a priest.


Mum would love to have come so it was very sad to leave her in Greystones. The journey would have been too much for her. Taking loads of photos as promised to show her when I get home.

I know this is a little rambling but I needed to put something down and break back into blogging after the last entry. Still sadness surrounds us like a fog that comes and goes. Dad I miss you. Mum I love you. X

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Rest In Peace

KEEGAN (Revd. Donald Leslie) (former Archdeacon of Killaloe & Clonfert) - April 15, 2010, in the excellent care of the staff of the Blackrock Clinic following a short illness; devoted and loving husband of Janet, wise and generous father of Andrew, Ruth (Elmes) and Jackie (Molloy), father-in-law of Catherine, Gary and the late Garry and Julian, proud grandfather to Jessica, Jonathan, Sam and Max, dear brother of Joan, Jack, Dorothy and David. Funeral Service on Monday, April 19 at 11.00 o'clock in St. Patrick's Church, Church Road, Greystones followed by private burial. Family flowers only. Donations, if desired, to Bishop's Appeal Fund, c/o Revd. D. Mungavin, The Rectory, Church Road, Greystones, Co. Wicklow."Death is not extinguishing the light but putting out the lampbecause the dawn has come".

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Thursday

It has been a very up and down week and as a result I kept holding off about blogging as I thought it would be out of date as fast as I posted it. Dad has had a difficult week involving a lot of things going on and resulting in the need for 3 units of blood. He is quite settled this evening but was very weak at the start of the week. He was up and about with the physio today and is being encouraged to mobilise more.

Andrew and Jacq brought Mum up to visit him today and they enjoyed the opportunity to talk while the three of us had coffee downstairs.

It is very hard to know how things will go from here as they keep on changing. All we can do is say that for tonight he is settled and Mum is better for seeing him.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

Saturday

It has been a rollercoaster of a week. Dad had a gastroscopy yesterday and a stent was successfully inserted which means that he can eat and drink again. It has been a very tiring week for him and he hopes to get a good night sleep tonight to help him build up his strength. If all goes according to plan he should be home again midweek. Mum is settling into Greystones Nursing Home. We don't really know what the week ahead holds but I will update if there is news.

Friday, April 2, 2010

Dad's Superb Ordination Sermon

25/3/10 Ruth’s Ordination
On this very special day for Ruth, her family and her friends, I would like to thank you Archbishop John for allowing me the honour of playing a small part in this Service.
I have known the ordinand for more years than I care to remember but here I have to be very careful about my choice of words. You see the word PRIDE keeps coming into my mind and as pride is such a sinful word I have to avoid it. So I’ll use another word instead and say. “Ruth your family, your friends and especially your parents have the highest admiration for your many achievements. Life has not been easy for you have had so many difficult experiences to cope with. But in all these events you have risen to the challenges and overcome them. Your courage, your faith, your determination not to be dragged down by bitterness, has been such an inspiration to us all
You had a long struggle when you felt called to seek ordination and like many others in similar situations you yielded to that compelling call eventually. It was quite a change to swap your nurses uniform for an undergraduate’s gown.

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But you were well up to the challenge and passed all your exams with flying colours. Since your ordination to the diaconate, it seems you have been so fulfilled in your ministry here in this group of parishes and I know Ian and all the parishioners have appreciated that ministry.
Your life’s experiences, good and bad have given depth and spiritual insights to your pastoral work in the parish and your preaching from the pulpit.
And from a purely personal point it is a source of great consolation to me that as in retirement my own ministry draws to a close, you will be there in the years to come to continue bearing the light of Christ in your Ministry.
Tonight my thoughts are centered on the theme of the Good Shepherd and especially on one particular phrase in those Declarations which the Bishop will read shortly. What it says in effect is that those who are called to the Priesthood “Must set the Good Shepherd always before them as the pattern of their calling.” The example of Jesus is so important for all of us. But that said, to speak of shepherds and sheep mightn’t mean a lot to some folks nowadays, especially in city areas.
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I remember an incident when Ruth’s Great grandmother in Dublin was confined to bed, very weak and close to death. Her daughter, Ruth’s granny who was caring for her, asked the Rector to call and Minister to her. The old lady seemed asleep for most of his visit but perked up just in time to hear his closing words as he read to her the 23rd Psalm. “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want - -” After he left, Great granny seemed more settled. Trying to think of something useful to say, Ruth’s granny said how she herself loved Psalm 23. “What did you think of the Rector’s few words”, she asked. Great Granny’s reply was typically frank. “Didn’t think much of them myself but I suppose they would have been all very nice to hear if you happened to be a sheep.”
Lets face it, many city folk are woefully ignorant about life in the country. Soon after I began my ministry I met up with a colleague who like me was brought up in Dublin and found himself rector of a country parish. Well sez he, are you getting used to it? Yes sez I, I’m learning. Well, tell me this sez he, do you know the difference between hay and straw?

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I did, as it happened but you’d be surprised at how many city people don’t know one from the other. Ask around for yourself if you don’t believe me. And that credibility gap between urban and rural life seems to be growing. Even in rural Ireland, there’s a widening gap between past and present, between father and son. Sheep farming methods have changed a lot too in these past 50 years. The sheep have changed. The shepherds have changed and the relationship between them is so different now compared to that of a generation ago, never mind 1st Century Palestine.
In today’s Church too the traditional roles of priest and people, shepherd and sheep also need to be reassessed. We can no longer rely on a 19th Century model in a 21st Century Church.
Canon Maureen Ryan, an Auxiliary Priest in Tuam, in an article I read recently deals with this need for new thinking and new strategies for mission and ministry. First she reminds us of that old familiar nursery rhyme. “Little Bo Peep has lost her sheep and doesn’t know where to find them. Leave them alone and they will come home dragging their tails behind them”.
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Then she continues as follows “These days, Bo Peep’s strategy is no longer an option. We can no longer wait for the sheep to come home to us. They won’t be dragging their tails behind them either. These contemporary lost sheep have had their tails docked while they were still lambs - it’s more efficient, more hygienic. Today’s sheep have changed in other ways also. If you visit the National Gallery and look at the Pastoral Paintings over the past 400 years you’ll see how much all the farm animals have changed. They’re still recognizable as sheep or cows or pigs but they are very different. So it is in today’s church. Our sheep have changed and we shepherds have to adjust too. Today’s sheep are not the same as they were in New Testament times, or in the early church or in Reformation times. There might be the odd animal sanctuary here and there given over to the propagation and maintenance of rare breeds, the Church of Ireland might even be one of them, but most breeds have evolved. They’re still hungry but their nutritional needs have changed. It’s no good expecting sheep to thrive if they can’t digest the food offered by the shepherds.
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It’s no use leaving the food out in places where the flocks no longer graze, or putting the same old food in modern packages. It might look contemporary but they still won’t assemble meekly for weekly nourishment. What we have to do today is to learn new shepherding skills - go where they are - find out what they hunger for - become familiar with those new pastures where they look for significance in their lives”.
End of quote. Canon Ryan’s wake up call to the church of today needs to be heeded. The people to whom we minister may be like lost sheep to us but they themselves don’t feel lost. They feel liberated, with minds of their own. Maybe they used to respond to the shepherd’s or the rector’s voice but these days so often the voice of the church is drowned out by a host of conflicting distractions. All sorts of messages bombard them, from the T.V., the Internet, the media, the advertisers. A plethora of “would be” shepherds, false shepherds and wolves in sheep’s clothing all clamouring for attention.
You remember Jesus’ parable of the lost sheep about the shepherd going out to seek the one lost sheep and leaving the 99 safely in the fold.
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Well nowadays it seems that the parable has been reversed in that we shepherd priests find ourselves seeking the 99 lost sheep while only one remains safely in the fold. And what we’ve found really hard to grasp is the rapid pace of all these changes.
Shortly after I came to Birr, I was asked by the Bishop to represent the Diocese at a “Partners in Mission” Conference. Each Diocese was asked to outline their Home Mission policy. When it came to my turn I proudly informed all present that we in the Diocese of Killaloe and Clonfert had no such policy. We don’t really need one, I explained. There just don’t seem to be any lost sheep in our area. Everyone on our patch seems to be already affiliated to one church or the other, you see. We don’t go for sheep stealing so this leaves us with no-one outside the churches to evangelise. How naive I was then and how dramatically things have changed in the past 30 years.
But does all this mean that the need for priests “to set the Good Shepherd always before them as the pattern of their calling” is no longer relevant? Certainly not!
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These days Ruth, the calling of a priest is a tough assignment but I have every confidence in your ability to cope with whatever challenges the church of today faces. Because although the sheep may change and the shepherding methods will have to change, despite all that, some things remain constant. And what still shines through in the example of the Good Shepherd remains as relevant as ever. So, can I just finish Ruth with some guidelines as you embark on your priestly Ministry, endeavouring to follow the Good Shepherd.
We are still called to sacrificial love for those in our care and to put their needs before our own. Some people by their very nature are easy to love. Others may stretch our patience and our tolerance to the very limit. Always treasure the all embracing love of Jesus for all his sheep, lost and found, as your example.
Like the Good Shepherd we need to know our sheep and to try to understand their needs. Getting to know people is a time consuming process. But its only as we get to know them and they us, that a foundation can be built for a trusting relationship between priest and people.

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As my first Bishop used to put it, just to change the analogy “If you want to teach Johnny fishing, you must know fishing but you also must know Johnny. ”The Good Shepherd knows each of his sheep by name. So the key factor in our ministry is the personal relationship between shepherd and sheep. It needs to be on a one-to-one basis. One by one they are brought for Baptism. One by one brought to the Bishop for Confirmation. One by one we are called to minister to their needs. One by one they are laid to rest.
And finally, our Ministry should be firmly grounded in our own journey of faith. For it is from the well of our own personal experience of the Good Shepherd’s love, that we can best draw our strength. Its back to that Bishop’s analogy about teaching Johnny fishing. As well as knowing Johnny you have to know fishing. In other words, if you seek to nurture people in the Christian Faith, you have nurture your own faith in Christ, to return time and time again to him for strength and sustenance. And so Ruth, may God bless you in your future Ministry and may you always set the Good Shepherd before you as the pattern of your calling.

Good Friday

It has been a difficult time since my last post. Dad will remain in hospital over the weekend and into next week. His difficulty eating has become a real problem and this means that he needs hospital support. They are trying to make him more comfortable but thank God he is not in pain. He was very tired yesterday.

As a result of his continuing stay in Blackrock we have taken the difficult decision to place Mum into the care of Greystones Nursing Home. Although she would liked to have remained at home, she would have had to spend time alone in the house if we were in Blackrock and we felt that she needed secure care and have reluctantly made the "responsible" decision. Jacq and I will bring her there later today. Needless to say we are all distraught by the relatively sudden turn of events and ask for your continued prayers.

I hope to be at Dad's computer over the next couple of days and plan to post his wonderful sermon on this blog for those who were not able to hear him preach last week.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Hospital

Dad went into the Blackrock Clinic for chemo this morning and on assessment it was uncertain whether he was fit enough for it. Following bloods and an x ray they decided to admit him to keep an eye on him. They gave him his chemo but he is still an in patient this evening. They say that he should only be in for a couple of days but we should know more tomorrow.

It is Dad's birthday tomorrow and probably not the birthday he would have liked. Mum is in reasonable form though understandably concerned about them keeping Dad in. I will post more when I know more.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Ordination Report

Sorry for the slight delay in posting this but things have been busy and I wanted to be able to add a note about Dad's weekend away.

The ordination was a wonderful experience. Mum and Dad were both able to make it as I said. Dad was able to robe and join in the service fully as preacher. Although I am obviously biased, I know from the feedback that his sermon was exceptional, and I have since heard it described as "magnificent", "relevant" and "inspirational". I was really pleased that so many of my friends and parishioners were able to hear him for the first time and get a measure of how gifted a preacher he is, but like I say, I am probably biased.

Jacq sang Pie Jesu beautifully and Andrew and Jonathan read lessons. It was great that as it was in the parish I was able to involve family so much. Jessica co-presented me for ordination. Dad was able to participate in the laying on of hands and this was really special. The singing was excellent and I managed to get through the two anthems without shedding too many tears. I love Rutter's Clare Benediction and it had added poignancy under the circumstances. It is an evening I will treasure always.

Dad left early the next morning for the trip to Harrogate with his brother David and Jacq. I think that he enjoyed parts of it but it was very tiring. He came home yesterday evening and rested today and will have another round of chemo tomorrow. It is his birthday on Wednesday so that will be fairly low key. Mum and I had a quiet weekend in Greystones.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Ordination

Just a little note to say thank you so much for all the good wishes and prayers for the day that was in it. I had an amazing evening and couldn't have been prouder of my family, friends and parish. I will post more fully in a couple of nights as I am down with Mum for the weekend but suffice to say that Dad was wonderful and I am so so pleased to be related to such an awesome preacher. Mum was able to be there too and we had a night that I will always treasure.

I will blog fully in a couple of days. Dad has gone to Harrogate to play with his toy cars! So pleased he made it.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Ordination Tomorrow

All going ahead as planned. Will post some info following the event. Dad is set to preach before his big weekend away. Hopefully both Mum and Dad will enjoy the event. Will post news over the weekend. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Mothering Sunday

No news is relatively good news. It has been a quiet week really. Both Mum and Dad remain at home and though the week has had its moments, it has been a good one overall. We are tentatively planning for Dad to go on his Matchbox car weekend on the 26th of this month with his brother David and the addition of his personal nurse (Jacq) to travel with him. (I will stay at home woth Mum.) It is the last Matchbox weekend as the club is due to finish up after this and as Dad has been to so many of them, it would be brilliant if he can get to Harrogate for it. The organisers are pulling out all the stops to help him to go and we are so grateful for their help with that. Fingers crossed!

Dad is still hoping to preach at my ordination to the priesthood on March 25th. It will be a quieter event than my ordination to the diaconate. I am delighted to have the support of my family at this event. Andrew and Jonathan will read lessons and Jacq will sing. I will try not to get too emotional!

Mum has had a reasonable week - Jacq and I dropped into her today. Andrew is hoping to get down to see them tomorrrow so she will have been plagued by all of her children within a short period! I admire the good humour, patience and dignity she has shown throughout her journey with MS. Mum we love you. Thank you for your example of trust in God.

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Sunday Evening Update

Its the end of another week. Dad's chemo went well and he had great energy afterwards and managed to get some stuff done. The side effects of the chemo are now kicking in and he has become quite tired which is not unexpected. He went to church this morning though so that is a good way to start the week. We hope that his energy levels will pick up as the week progresses.

Mum is in reasonable form though obviously upset that she can't care for Dad.

Ernie continues to behave badly, shredding up any stray tissues and barking loudly to draw attention to himself. It is nice that some things don't change!

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Post Chemo

Andrew dropped Dad up for his chemo and checkup yesterday. I was teasing Dad that the seating in the chemo day unit looked like a salon but when I picked him up his hair and nails looked exactly the same! I think he valued the opportunity to ask any questions on his treatment and get some expert advice on his care. He got home about 4.30 and was able to do a few jobs around the house before dinner.

Today he is in very good form and we will wait and see what way this belt of chemo will affect him. It is hard to know what to expect as they have indicated that this session may produce more aggressive side effects. At least he has had a couple of good days if he gets tired over the next while.

Happy Birthday to Mum! I won't reveal what age she is today but she was pleased (I think that was the expressionon her face :-) ) to be surrounded by her grandchildren when she blew out her candles. She is as glad as Dad is that chemo is over for another few weeks.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Saturday

Mum returned from Rathdrum yesterday and was very glad to get home though she didn't sleep much the night before. She had a great sleep last night and is enjoying being in her own bed watching a nature documentary as I type.

She is in good form though worried about Dad who will return from hospital later today to rest before his next blast of chemo on Tuesday. We hope that he will be in better form during the next few days as the fatigue and difficulty concentrating are getting him down I think.

We have been getting lots of calls from people offering their support and assistance which has been great. With regard to helping , we don't know what we need to get done half the time so it is difficult to take up some of the wonderful offers! We are eternally grateful for your support and thoughts and prayers.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Re-admission

Just to let you know that Dad was readmitted to the Blackrock Clinic this evening as a precaution. He was at home was having difficulty with eating and Jacq rang Blackrock and they said to bring him in to be seen and by the time they got there, a room was waiting for him.

I think that we are all relieved that the care is so good and that they facilitate any difficulties on a 24 hour basis. He will be reviewed tomorrow and was settled in bed when we left him. We hope that this is only a temporary glitch and that he will be feeling better and home soon.

Mum is still coming home as planned on Friday, and we continue to plan for that. She is in good form and looking forward to being in her own bed and seeing everyone.

Friday, February 19, 2010

A Week Later

So Dad has been home a week. The chemo was quite aggressive and it has taken the week for him to show some return to form. It has been hard for him to manage the tiredness and it has required him to only do the necessary so he hasn't been on line or on the phone to anyone. I hope over the next week the improvement will continue.

Mum is due home this day next week and it will be challenging to care for them both properly while the routine resettles. She continues to be cheerful and settled in Rathdrum but is anxious to be home again. She was "ashed" by the RC priest on Wednesday and when I asked the nurse if they realised she was C of I the nurse responded that they didn't mind "Sure the priest just does everyone!!"
Some of the home helps have been visiting her regularly - Ann Marie and Helena have been exceptionally good to Mum (and to the rest of us) during this few weeks

Thank you for your continuing prayers.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Home

Dad left hospital today with an appointment for more chemo next month. It was a beautiful sunny day and we drove from Blackrock to see Mum in Rathdrum briefly before heading home. It was a very tiring day for him and he needed a good rest when he finally got home. Things will be fairly quiet for a while as Dad rests and minds himself so there may not be daily postings but I will put one up soon.

Ernie came home this evening and settled in again immediately with a demand for dinner. Some things never change!

Thank you for your continuing prayers and good wishes.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Discharge


The consultant has given Dad the thumbs up to go home tomorrow afternoon with follow up appointments for whatever is required. He looks forward to being reunited with Ernie - they are great pals as you can see from the photo taken at Christmas. I imagine he will have a good rest when he gets home and will have the opportunity to check his emails etc.
Mum is to stay in Rathdrum until the end of the respite period at the end of the month.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Chemo Starts

Dad was wired up today and had his first session of chemo. The lovely chemo nurse looked after him well and some visitors helped to pass the time. He was in very good form this afternoon and is hoping to be home at the end of the week. He then rests and settles in with Ernie who is on his holidays in Jacq's house.

Mum continues to be in good form and is enjoying the kindness of the visitors who are travelling to Rathdrum to see her.